HAVE YOU GIVEN A NAME TO YOUR CHILDS BEHAVIOUR?
How many initials does it have? How early was the diagnosis made? Did you seek out the medical help because you couldn’t handle your child? I am not saying children today don’t have problems. Many, (it is my belief,) are given too many vaccinations at one time. I think bombarding the brain with so many live vaccines at one time can have side effects. But I also think it is safe to say that parents today are not like they were in the last generation. Am I advocating beating children? Of course not! My husband and I raised six children and never had to beat any of them. Did they get spankings? Absolutely! But not all that many. We had rules for them, and children thrive when they know there is consequences for their actions. They will go right up to that line in acts of defiance, but will seldom cross it. I know children with disabilities are a challenge, but if you can reason with them, then reasonable parameters can be set in terms of behavior. One of my grandchildren use to throw themselves on the floor at home and have a rip roaring tantrum. The child tried to do that one time while I was babysitting. I ask, “What are you doing? That is not allowed here.” Never again was there a tantrum at my house. The parents were dismayed when the tantrums still happened at home, and one of their other children said, “They don’t do that at Grandma’s.” Finally the bewildered parent came and ask me how I got them to stop. I simply told them that I didn’t allow that behavior at my house. Needless to say, they no longer allow it at theirs either.
When you have a child that can go to school and behave all day then come home and give their parents grief, you have to understand that this is a learned behavior. Its acceptance is expected and therefore continued. Your child should never be permitted to strike a parent or talk back! Why would you stand there and argue with a child? In a calm collective voice, tell them to go to their room and you will come and discuss the matter with them calmly. Refuse to communicate until quiet calm reasoning can ensue. Remember, you are in charge! Punishments are not torture. They are set in place so children can grow up and function in polite, or otherwise known as civilized, society. Their demands and tantrums will not be tolerated in college or places of employment. The sooner they are taught this behavior will not be tolerated, the better. Don’t give them electronics so you don’t have to deal with them. They need to learn how to behave and how to have an attention span more than two minutes. They need to learn to communicate with you and others. Ask them about their day, their friends, how they are feeling. Get to know you child or grandchild!
As parents we often look for an easy solution to a difficult problem. If things are not dealt with on a daily basis, they will be buried deep inside your child. Help them understand that they can come to you with any problem, big or small. They don’t always want you to fix them, just listen to them and help them figure out how to proceed. Use the Bible as a guide line. It will help you both understand that you don’t have to face your problems alone. Just read them the verses below and ask them what they think they mean. These verses weren’t put in the Bible to be ignored, but to help parents do what is right by their children. They can help you avoid having to apply ‘board of education to the seat of knowledge!’ Be their parent, they have enough friends.
We as writers tend to gloss over behavioral issues in our writings. We don’t want to get too personal or political. Don’t you think some of the adults today act like spoiled, coddled children? Then let us be more honest in our writing about it. Maybe we can help bring a small change to our own little world!
Ephesians 6:4 – And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Proverbs 13:24 – He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Colossians 3:21 – Fathers, provoke not your children [to anger], lest they be discouraged.
Proverbs 29:15 – The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 23:13-14 – Withhold not correction from the child: for [if] thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. (Read More…)
Proverbs 22:15 – Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Proverbs 19:18 -19 – Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.